Slim and Franke

Slim and Franke

Wednesday, October 08, 2008

EXPRESSING THOUGHTS FOR NO REASON

From this........

To this......My sister recently gave me this old photo and it got me to remembering...................

My family is amazed at my reliance on my spouse. My children claim that they still see occasional glimpses of their feminist mom, even though I don't want that frightening independence ever again.


I was a single parent for 26 years. My primary focus in life was to expand my education and my career to make a better life for my kids. Then the children grew up, left home and my independence was boring as hell plus I was lonely.

In walks Prince Charming in the form of a retired Navy Chief. He took charge. He said I had been running amok for too long and needed some supervision.

I had been almost agoraphobic, going only to and from work, to church and to the grocery store. It was my plan to work at least until 70. But Ron managed to get me to venture outside my house. We traveled and talked and laughed and when we talked about marriage, he promised me a life of laughter and abject poverty.

There is so much to say about the importance of companionship. For a woman who vowed she did not need a man in her life to make life good, I'm glad Ron showed up to teach me differently. He is strong, dedicated, trustworthy, charming, intelligent and just a tad bit crazy. What more could anyone want?

It has almost been ten years since my life changed. Sometimes I need to pinch myself to believe that this man scooped me up and wrapped me in wonderful.

20 comments:

  1. You are an inspiration! I love this story! It's nice to know that a tough cookie can melt. ;)

    I want all my divorced friends to read this.

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  2. Who would have known:) I am so glad your Prince Charming found you and I hope you have the happy ever after for the next 10 years and more. Thank you for sharing this...................

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  3. The world is a much more exciting place when one has a good friend to share it with.

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  4. I loved this story about you! I am SO not the same person I was when I met my sweet CCB. I can't believe how much I rely on him now. The OLD me would be horrified!

    (I enjoyed your pictures too!)

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  5. This was a great story...my husband is number three we were married seven years last May and he is a keeper..I had been single since 1989 and never thought I'd find one I'd trust again...

    He is wonderful and yes there is a lot to say about love and companionship..

    My best,
    Dorothy from grammology
    grammology.com

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  6. awwww you got to do both things, both with and without someone, you are a very strong person, I love your life story!!! :)

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  7. Hold him close - I'm so happy you have each other. I love this post!!!!!

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  8. Annie, I wonder what your life would have been like if you had found him sooner? Hang on to this good man and thank God for sending him your way.....Aren't you glad that you took a look at him? Congradulations.

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  9. What a story. How wonderful that you found each other. I too had to wait for my prince charming (not as long as you). I'm so glad you found that someone special.

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  10. A wonderful tribute to Ron. I'm now at the stage where you were when work, church and grocery store were "entertainment." I've been a widow for 32 years, had a half-dozen dates in that time and couldn't find anyone I wanted a 3rd date with. Maybe my Ron was the ONE! Glad you're lovin' the life!

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  11. A wonderful post, Annie, and a great tribute to your marriage! We all complain once in a while, but it is good to realize what you have and be grateful for it (him). Happy Anniversary!

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  12. For a moment there, I thought you wrote "retired Navy CHEF" and I thought "Boy, she REALLY hit the jackpot!" HAA! But I'll bet you're like me and love to cook, too!?

    WHAT A MARVELOUS blog piece, Annie...Here's to MANY more happy, healthy years wrapped in wonderful!

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  13. Z, we have a decorater front licensse plate on our van that reads "Senior Chief". One of our young grandson's ran in the house proud of his ability to read and in his best Spanish accent, called grandpa "Senor Chef".

    He might as well have been a chef because he is the one in our house that can cook. I am just learning.

    Thank you all for your nice comments. Ron and I are a typical couple with our arguments and disagreements but we are never cruel and we never go to bed without kissing each other goodnight.

    I think I left out the best word that describes him....honorable!

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  14. You are both the lucky ones. Congrats to both of you for knowing a good thing when you see it.

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  15. What a beautiful story. I loved reading it. I also love that you said independence was boring as hell!

    How lucky you are to have such a wonderful companion. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.

    Sammy

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  16. Thanks Cliff. I know you and Marilyn have your own unique love story.

    Sammy, that's why I'm so excited about your expected child. With a loving spouse and a little boy, your life is going to be so full of fun and never a "dull" moment.

    My husband says he is afraid now because I made him sound so good he's just sure some othe woman will come to steal him! (You wish, I told him!)

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  17. There IS nothing better than honorable. nothing.
    (ya, not even that!!!) xxx

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  18. How blessed you both are!!!

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  19. Hooray for Ron!!!!
    He's a manly man, and you hit the jackpot when you surrendered to his manliness.

    :-)

    :-)

    :-)

    Nothing wrong with a bit of feminism, but when it turns into man hating.... No way! No how!!!

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  20. "...wrapped me in wonderful" - what more could anyone ask for?

    I'm always intrigued by how just the right person comes to us at just the right time.

    Wishing you and Ron decades of pure wonderfulness, Granny Annie!

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