Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more: it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
-- Macbeth, Act 5, Scene 5
Frankie and Slim
Happy New Year
Monday, July 26, 2021
QUESTION OF THE WEEK - 07-25-2021
Should a woman keep her maiden name when she marries?
Interesting question/dilemma My DIL is going through that right now (2 years running), as she is the last in her family line and doesn't want it to die out with her.
I think it depends on the circumstances really. If the woman in question has a solid professional career built under her maiden name, then it really wouldn't make sense to change her name (legally) and thus set herself back until she can get it reestablished under her new name.
People in general think that is just the ritual or tradition. And it is. However, it is a transfer of property. From the 11 century women left their family to be property of the husband. I still carry my birth/maiden name. In this day and age. I would say keep your own name.
Her choice, and it should be his, too. My younger son took his wife's last name, as she was an only child and didn't want the family name to end. He had an awful time getting it changed, and i think that's wrong. It should be just as easy both ways.
We should be past the point of caring. Keeping a maiden name is fine, I think. Keeping an ex's last name is a bit... uh... awkward. But generally speaking it should be up to the bride, and her alone.
Interesting question/dilemma My DIL is going through that right now (2 years running), as she is the last in her family line and doesn't want it to die out with her.
ReplyDeleteI think it depends on the circumstances really. If the woman in question has a solid professional career built under her maiden name, then it really wouldn't make sense to change her name (legally) and thus set herself back until she can get it reestablished under her new name.
My nieces have kept their maiden names and I have often wished that I would have but if every woman kept her maiden name, where would it begin/end?
ReplyDeleteIt would have been easier for me if I had since I got divorced but I think if you plan on children, take the man's name.
ReplyDeleteIf she wants to. It sure is a hassle changing your name, but I did change mine to hubbies last name. Great question.
ReplyDeleteHave a fabulous day and week. ♥
People in general think that is just the ritual or tradition. And it is. However, it is a transfer of property. From the 11 century women left their family to be property of the husband. I still carry my birth/maiden name. In this day and age. I would say keep your own name.
ReplyDeleteIf she wants to.
ReplyDeleteMaybe it depends on the name she would be going to?!?!
ReplyDeleteHer choice, and it should be his, too. My younger son took his wife's last name, as she was an only child and didn't want the family name to end. He had an awful time getting it changed, and i think that's wrong. It should be just as easy both ways.
ReplyDeleteIf she wants to and if both parties agree. Possibly it could be hyphenated.
ReplyDeleteWe should be past the point of caring. Keeping a maiden name is fine, I think. Keeping an ex's last name is a bit... uh... awkward. But generally speaking it should be up to the bride, and her alone.
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