Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more: it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
-- Macbeth, Act 5, Scene 5
Frankie and Slim
Happy New Year
Monday, November 23, 2020
QUESTION OF THE WEEK 11-23-2020
Do you hold a grudge or do you forgive and forget?
I most often forgive and forget. Forgave my first husband many things and even forgave the bank robber who held me hostage at gun point. But...there are four ladies at the last bank where I worked who terrorized me for 9 years and I cannot find it in my heart to forgive them. I even have nightmares about them often.
Both. Some things are not forgiveable or forgettable. When I can I choose to step away. Hanging on to a grudge does me no good (or the other person any harm). I am so sorry that you were terrorised by your work colleagues. I had one of them. A nasty, nasty piece of work.
I must not for I really can't think of anyone that I am holding a grudge against. I am really so sorry you had to deal with those mean ladies and for so long. Can see why that grudge lingers.
I forgive, but forgetting takes longer, depending on what has transpired. My mum could hold a grudge, she was a champion grudge holder, for even the tiniest of things perceived as being done wrong to her.
My former mother-in-law was a grudge holder. She kicked her own mother-in-law out of her house in the early 70's and never let her back in. The rest of us knew never to cross her.
That's so sad those women bullying you. I had a boss who was great fun but she could be a real bully & there was nothing you could do. She was a good friend of the Principal Officer and nobody would stand up to her. She was the same with everyone & a couple of people had nervous breakdowns. One told me if I couldn't knuckle down & accept her behaviour I should leave. I did just that. In my next job came up against another woman who was quite nasty with me but thankfully she was only there on a temporary basis. I don't know why people behave like this what do they get out of it?
I most often forgive and forget. Forgave my first husband many things and even forgave the bank robber who held me hostage at gun point. But...there are four ladies at the last bank where I worked who terrorized me for 9 years and I cannot find it in my heart to forgive them. I even have nightmares about them often.
ReplyDeleteBoth. Some things are not forgiveable or forgettable. When I can I choose to step away. Hanging on to a grudge does me no good (or the other person any harm).
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you were terrorised by your work colleagues. I had one of them. A nasty, nasty piece of work.
It is sad when women are our own worst enemies.
DeleteI must not for I really can't think of anyone that I am holding a grudge against. I am really so sorry you had to deal with those mean ladies and for so long. Can see why that grudge lingers.
ReplyDeleteI read somewhere wants that it was healthier to seek revenge than to forgive.
DeleteI guess I forgive usually, but sometimes it takes a while. I may hold a grudge for a time but I don't think I take revenge.
ReplyDeleteJohn Wayne sure knew how to take revenge. Ha, ha, ha...
DeleteI forgive, but forgetting takes longer, depending on what has transpired. My mum could hold a grudge, she was a champion grudge holder, for even the tiniest of things perceived as being done wrong to her.
ReplyDeleteMy former mother-in-law was a grudge holder. She kicked her own mother-in-law out of her house in the early 70's and never let her back in. The rest of us knew never to cross her.
DeleteI don't always forgive, but I usually reach a peace agreement with my memories.
ReplyDeleteI love that..."...a peace agreement with my memories." Maybe I can do that.
DeleteWhile i try to forgive, it can be difficult. Eventually i do, but sometimes it takes a lot of work.
ReplyDeleteIt is not an easy thing to do, that is for sure.
DeleteThe older I get the more I realize that life is just too short to hold grudges - well, most of the time anyway!
ReplyDeleteI guess that is true, but the older I get, the further I get from getting even.
DeleteThat's so sad those women bullying you. I had a boss who was great fun but she could be a real bully & there was nothing you could do. She was a good friend of the Principal Officer and nobody would stand up to her. She was the same with everyone & a couple of people had nervous breakdowns. One told me if I couldn't knuckle down & accept her behaviour I should leave. I did just that. In my next job came up against another woman who was quite nasty with me but thankfully she was only there on a temporary basis. I don't know why people behave like this what do they get out of it?
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