Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more: it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
-- Macbeth, Act 5, Scene 5
I had not seen my Korean friend for several years. When we encountered each other she greeted me by saying, "Oh Annie you so fat!". I don't believe she was being rude at all, only truthful.
Actually it was said to my hubs at the car dealership several years ago but I heard it and it hurt....they said "Why don't you take your mother in to the waiting room?" Since then I've lost weight and he looks pretty old now himself lol.
Blimey too many to mention here, and some of them are too personal. I still have a lady in my local supermarket that doesn't serve me as I make her uncomfortable.
An uncle (a dementia sufferer) once asked me 'when did you get so old?' I hadn't seen him for over 50 years so yes I think I had got 'old' but not as old as he in his confused state had suggested :)
I don't remember, really, I don't. things like that are forgotten by me pretty quickly. Why would I want that in my memory? Maybe I'm lucky that I'm able to let things go.
I've remembered one: my dad the week he was dying, told me I was fat and stupid and I thought it was the medication talking, but I glanced at him and he was looking lucidly right at me. He knew what he said. Seemed odd to me because I was only 55kg at the time, certainly not fat. I wish now I'd asked him what he meant.
Snaggle Tooth said... People at work who speak little English, shout "Shut up!" at me when I am trying to get help.
Now they know I can't stand it they do it more. The thing is, they talk all they want, or walk around, but I need some one to take over before I can go anywhere. ie: the bathroom.
Most of the rude/obnoxious/annoying things said to me are usually connected with my job. A lot of people have commented rather stupidly about my ability, which in turn usually gets them in trouble because I have no problem in passing along their comments to the higher ups that can make their lives truly miserable (and they have).
My era or being in the corporate world would not have allowed me to pass rude comments to higher ups. Being a female, I had no protection from such things. The comments were more than rude.
I had not seen my Korean friend for several years. When we encountered each other she greeted me by saying, "Oh Annie you so fat!". I don't believe she was being rude at all, only truthful.
ReplyDeleteActually it was said to my hubs at the car dealership several years ago but I heard it and it hurt....they said "Why don't you take your mother in to the waiting room?" Since then I've lost weight and he looks pretty old now himself lol.
ReplyDeleteI know how that felt. I was in the hospital and my older sister was near the bed when the nurse ask her how her "mother" was doing. GAWD!
DeleteKiller ain't it????
DeleteBlimey too many to mention here, and some of them are too personal. I still have a lady in my local supermarket that doesn't serve me as I make her uncomfortable.
ReplyDeleteHow can she avoid serving you? Does she close her lane when you walk up? Can you report her? Gosh that is awful.
DeleteShe calls someone to take over at the checkout. I'm kinda used to it now.
DeleteThe "somebody" should refuse. I'd just refuse to go to her till. What an ignorant person.
DeleteTo be honest I wouldn't shop there.
A total stranger once asked if my hair was natural. I still don't know what that means.
ReplyDeleteProbably referring to your hair color. I wonder what people would ask me if I walked around with my wig off.
DeleteI might ask if your head gets cold without the covering. So, does it? Or only in winter?
DeleteIt was said by my mother. I'm chalking it up to dementia and not going to repeat it.
ReplyDeleteMy parents never had unkind words for me but my siblings are another issue. They rarely had anything nice to say. LOL
DeleteSomeone I hadn't seen in a while said,"Boy the sun has ruined your skin." Sadly they were right.
ReplyDeleteI've heard "You were a smoker weren't you? I can tell from the lines around your mouth." Yikes!
Delete“There’s an ugly one.”
ReplyDeleteThat's not nice at all!!
DeleteYou know, I must have a great blind eye, because I have blocked them all out!!
ReplyDeleteGood for you:-)
DeleteAll of the really rude ones came from family. One that came as a pointed reminder came from a stranger being nice. 'When is your baby due?'
ReplyDeleteWere you even pregnant? That was asked of me once when I was not pregnant but it was because of the type shirt I was wearing...I think. LOL
DeleteI have never been pregnant.
DeleteWhere do I start? lol
ReplyDeleteHow could anyone be rude to you:-)
DeleteI came up with one, but I promised I'd avoid politics......
ReplyDeleteThat is probably best but it does make me curious. LOL
DeleteAn uncle (a dementia sufferer) once asked me 'when did you get so old?' I hadn't seen him for over 50 years so yes I think I had got 'old' but not as old as he in his confused state had suggested :)
ReplyDeleteSome of us believe some of our friends are old even though they are the same age.
DeleteI don't remember, really, I don't. things like that are forgotten by me pretty quickly. Why would I want that in my memory? Maybe I'm lucky that I'm able to let things go.
ReplyDeleteI've remembered one: my dad the week he was dying, told me I was fat and stupid and I thought it was the medication talking, but I glanced at him and he was looking lucidly right at me. He knew what he said. Seemed odd to me because I was only 55kg at the time, certainly not fat. I wish now I'd asked him what he meant.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry this post caused you to surface that terrible memory. He had to be delusional from meds.
DeleteUnfortunately, the things i tell myself are much worse than what others say. Maybe i'm trying to beat them to the punch?
ReplyDeleteThat is a good thing:-)
Deletei put my "story" on my blog finally
ReplyDeleteI used to get the fat comment cause i was, but no more
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ReplyDeleteSnaggle Tooth said...
ReplyDeletePeople at work who speak little English, shout "Shut up!" at me when
I am trying to get help.
Now they know I can't stand it they do it more. The thing is, they talk all they want, or walk around, but I need some one to take over before I can go anywhere. ie: the bathroom.
I don't like the sound of that. You have life so rough and I cannot wait for you to win the lottery and get out of there.
DeleteThanks, me too! Maybe I won't wait n will just quit.
DeleteMost of the rude/obnoxious/annoying things said to me are usually connected with my job. A lot of people have commented rather stupidly about my ability, which in turn usually gets them in trouble because I have no problem in passing along their comments to the higher ups that can make their lives truly miserable (and they have).
ReplyDeleteMy era or being in the corporate world would not have allowed me to pass rude comments to higher ups. Being a female, I had no protection from such things. The comments were more than rude.
DeleteHave to say I can't think of anything that bad but maybe that's because I've got such a bad memory!
ReplyDeleteI think it is because no one could ever be rude to you because you are so nice:-)
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