| scruple -- a doubt or hesitation that troubles the conscience or that comes from the difficulty of determining whether something is right; to show reluctance on grounds of conscience
Is the right or wrong choice always obvious to you?
If you wish, please share a comment of a time you last struggled with what was the right thing to do. Tell about a totally unscrupulous person in your life who never showed any concern or conscience about right choices? It would be fun to know what you would do. Here are some sample questions from the game SCRUPLES. The game answers must be "yes" "no" or "depends" and if you say depends you have to explain what would change it to a yes or no: The only available spot in the parking lot is reserved for the handicapped. You are in a hurry and won't be very long. Do you park there? While on a co-worker's computer, you accidentally erase an important file. There's no way to trace it to you. Do you fess up? While drinking in an out-of-the-way bar, you see a friend's spouse having a romantic tête-à-tête. Do you mention it to your friend? A good friend is in love and introduces you to the new sweetheart. You find there is a mutual attraction between you and your friend's lover. Do you repress your feelings? Lots to pick from in this QOTW. Enjoy. | ||||||||||||||||||
The only available spot in the parking lot is reserved for the handicapped. You are in a hurry and won't be very long. Do you park there? ----- No, not under any circumstances. And that is also a very expensive ticket.
ReplyDeleteWhile on a co-worker's computer, you accidentally erase an important file. There's no way to trace it to you. Do you fess up? ----- Yes, I would, so they would know about it as quickly as possible and get someone to fetch it (which is usually possible.)
While drinking in an out-of-the-way bar, you see a friend's spouse having a romantic tête-à-tête. Do you mention it to your friend? ----- This actually happened to someone I know recently. This person approached the friend's spouse at the restaurant and said, "If you don't tell xxx, I will." She confessed to her husband and they are now divorced. I thought that was a perfect way to handle it.
A good friend is in love and introduces you to the new sweetheart. You find there is a mutual attraction between you and your friend's lover. Do you repress your feelings? ----- Absolutely yes.
I'm first! But can't think of a good one yet! hard game questions. I'd like to think I'd always do the honest thing. Once in awhile if I know some one will get really mad, I'll delay telling them bad news tho.
ReplyDeleteOne time I borrowed a boom microphone stand for a gig. (It fits the guitar under the mic. My daughter played with the height clamp, n unsrewed the spring-loaded thing! I thought I'd fixed it- but the friend said "Hey, I know you took my stand apart, because I'm left-handed, n now it's for a righty!" Now I hate borrowing anything... (Even tho the kids are grown)
Hey, Lynn beat me while I thought of a story...
ReplyDeleteMy answers would be the same as Lynn's.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to believe that I always do the "right" thing, But I don't. I won't give you an example of just how bad I can be, coz I'm embarrassed, but I honestly do try hard to be perfect, but fail miserably.
Well, I ditto Lynn.....
ReplyDeleteIn the real estate business I'm confronted with issues almost daily, definitely weekly. Because I care so much to do the right thing in every situation, I'm often stressed out. I made it my policy to never be involved in "dual agency" as I find it very hard to be completely impartial and not favor one side over the other, even subconciously. I "feel" the conflict of interest and don't like how it feels. Other agents think I'm crazy for this practice. There are times it's absolutely unavoidable--if someone I know very well, or a buyer I've worked with for awhile actually wants my listing. In that case I'm already in a dual agent situation.
ReplyDeleteExamples of other ethical issues in RE would end up being a 360 page book with fine print!
I loved the questions, and I'd answer them the same way Lynn did.
To answer the sample questions:
ReplyDeletel. No. I just wouldn't.
2. Yes. Somehow things like that always end up biting you in the you-know-what :)
3. Depends. It really depends on the depth of the relationship I have with the friend. If I'm super close with my friend, yes, I'm going to say something. If I'm not, I'll be torn. I do know that regardless of the level of friendship, I'm going to let that friend's spouse know that I see him/her in that moment of indiscretion.
4. Yes, I repress my feelings.
1. depends on if there's a cop around! hahah
ReplyDelete2. no
3. yes.
4. yes!
Good questions.
ReplyDeleteA bit loaded, but good.
Personally, I would say "no" about the handicap space and "yes" to fessing up about deleting an important file on someone's computer.
On the fence about the spouse, because it would depend on how well I know the individual.
As for the last, if I was single, no. Married, most definitely.
As you know, I tend toward honesty (not as in, "those pants make your ass look fat, FYI," but general honesty.) So to wit: I'd never park in a handicapped spot, I'd fess up to the file fuckup, I'd have to mention it to the friend, and I'd repress feelings (even if I wasn't married.)
ReplyDeleteThe last time I had a conundrum like this...someone who I know through work has become a friend. He recently got back together with an ex-girlfriend who called me at work and said all kinds of libelous, nasty shit about him right after they broke up - before he and I became friends. I was shocked when they got back together, and was debating whether I should tell him or not - and I did. He said he was glad I told him and wasn't surprised, unfortunately.
Yes, unless I try to kid myself!
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1. Feeling spiritually led to leave town to go care for an old boyfriend (male) who was dying. I didn't want to and worried about what people would think since I am a Christian. I went and it was the right thing to do. He accepted Christ and was Baptised just a few days before he passed away. I remained faithful to Christ in every way.
ReplyDelete2.I have a handicap tag but only use it if I am in a great deal of pain. I never parked in a handicap place before I got my tag.
3.I never touch anyone elses computer and do not allow anyone to mess with mine. If I did mess up I would have to fess up. It's the right thing to do.
4. I would confront the cheater and pray for him but insist he confess to his wife or I would.
5. I don't believe the Spirit of Christ in me would ever allow me to be attracted to a friends lover. He never has and I am nearly 73 years old.
there are no issues with this test
ReplyDeleteNo
yes
i confront the spose in the way earlier described
the last one is best, for i have lived it and become a good freind of both!
Lynn – How much is the ticket for parking in a handicapped space? I don’t believe I’ve ever known anyone to get one. None of my friends told me about my first husband’s philandering until many years after our divorce. They knew it would end our friendships because he would lie his way out and they were right. I often wish they would have handled it the way your friend did.
ReplyDeleteSnaggle Tooth – That is what is called “busted”. LOL
Snaggle Tooth – I pictured Lynn beating you with a stick. LOL
LL Cool Joe – Honesty is in the ability to say you “do try hard to be perfect, but fail miserably.”
Changes in the wind – Yes Lynn is getting lots of “dittos”.
Seriously Though – Staying honest in the Real Estate business is almost as difficult as staying honest in the banking profession. Some of my experiences I witnessed as a banker still come back to haunt me even 12 years after my retirement.
Talon – Those bites in the “you-know-what” are the most painful kind.
Blunt Delivery – How much of our honesty does pertain to whether law enforcement is present or not? LOL
G – A lot of it depends on “how well (we) know the individual”. That is an important element.
Riot Kitty – Is there any more to that story? Did the couple stay together after that or was he fine with her tirades? I am curious.
Chatty Crone – Oh my goodness, we all do a good job of kidding ourselves, don’t we?
Mountain Mama – You have gotten through a lot of life’s obstacles through your faith and you are to be commended.
Whitemist – There definitely must be an interesting story that goes with your final comment.
We have a limited number of 'close' friends and I think it might be because after 60 years of life you tend to pick and choose your lifelong friends very carefully. None I have would put me in bad situations. Casual acquiantances would get a pass from me in a restaurant with an unrecognizable mate.
ReplyDeleteI don't park in handi' spaces.
I married the only person that was crazy enough to be attracted to me.
A story on the Handicap stalls. My son dropped his wife off at a store in an outlet mall. Lots of parking, no one in the whole place but them. It was pouring rain and since he had 2 boys at that time in the car, he waited until he saw her at the register and drove up close so she could get to the car without getting too drenched. He was in a handicap stall for about 60 seconds with his motor running and a State Trooper came off of the Interstate to threaten him with a ticket. Probably 500 parking stalls and he was the only car there.
I'm sorry but I know I would have glance at the Interstate and said something like, "I guess you've got everyone under control out there."
Neither I nor my son would park in a handicap stall (even if I had a ligitmate sticker) but this was petty.
It is a good thing you were not with your son or you might have gotten everyone thrown in jail. It is a curiosity how a State Trooper had the time or inclination to focus on a handicap parking violation.
ReplyDeleteWe do have what Ron calls "A cripple sticker" and sometimes we park in a non-handicapped space because it is much better than the store's allocated spaces. I wonder if we can get a ticket for that?
My own answers to the scruples questions:
ReplyDelete1. Depends -- Is it a matter of life or death and at that point a ticket doesn't matter?
2. Depends -- Did this co-worker already delete my files in order to sabotage me?
3. Depends -- Do I have to interrupt my friend from his/her affair to tell them about their spouse?
4. Depends -- Does the "mutual attraction" include a little physical patting of the posterior region?
Our town has a "No tolerance traffic violation" policy. Handicap tix = $50 in MA. They try to raise money for the state thru tickets here. What a racket!
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