Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more: it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
-- Macbeth, Act 5, Scene 5
I just did this very thing this morning. One of my blogging buddies lost her husband this past weekend. I told her how sorry I was for the loss of her husband and sent her big healing hugs.
My friend suddenly lost her only child, a son. Lots of things I didn't say. I did say this was a terrible thing. Meanwhile she would be in my thoughts. I also send her a photo each day that I think is peaceful and of a place I know she has loved.
Because grief is deep and heart gripping, it is difficult for the person to really take in the condolences of others. I keep it simple and offer my help in anyway I can.
If in person, first a hug then I say how sorry I am and if they need to talk, no matter the time of day--call me. If far away, all of the above minus the hug.
I just did this very thing this morning. One of my blogging buddies lost her husband this past weekend. I told her how sorry I was for the loss of her husband and sent her big healing hugs.
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My friend suddenly lost her only child, a son. Lots of things I didn't say. I did say this was a terrible thing. Meanwhile she would be in my thoughts. I also send her a photo each day that I think is peaceful and of a place I know she has loved.
ReplyDeleteBecause grief is deep and heart gripping, it is difficult for the person to really take in the condolences of others. I keep it simple and offer my help in anyway I can.
ReplyDeleteIf in person, first a hug then I say how sorry I am and if they need to talk, no matter the time of day--call me. If far away, all of the above minus the hug.
ReplyDeleteI say that I am sorry, and ask what I can do to help.
ReplyDeleteThat I know there is no words but if they need anything I'll be there for them.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you just sit with the person and help her/him cry. Words can come later.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry. I will always remember him/her fondly.
ReplyDeleteI've been on both sides--- so my answer is, as little as possible-- but with as much love as possible.
ReplyDeleteIt really just depends on the person and situation.
ReplyDeleteI always quietly acknowledge the loss and then let the bereaved talk.
ReplyDeleteCherish your memories...
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