Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more: it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
-- Macbeth, Act 5, Scene 5
Frankie and Slim
Happy New Year
Monday, August 13, 2012
LET WHO HELP
Question Of The Week 8-13-12
I had to change the picture on this post. I found this perfect illustration later.
Where do you go for advice?
Friend, family member, neighbor, teacher, doctor, co-worker, pastor, milkman?
I've sort of turned into therapist for a depressed neighbor. You have to be careful about that kind of thing, but I advised her to call her therapist and take a walk in the mornings. She says mornings are the worst.
Hmm? This made me think that I haven't asked for advice much lately, and maybe I need to. I do have a good friend that I talk a lot of things over with.
Changes in the wind -- I would ask my husband but he believes we are all smart enough to figure things our for ourselves. And who would he ask? No one! Why should he, he knows it all:)
Jeanie -- Good friends are definitely for sharing confidences but can they give sound advice? The best advice I ever got was from a virtual stranger and it changed my life.
In my leadership of our board, I tend to get all of my advice from the lowest man (woman) on the pole. They always know the answer to the tough questions before the top figures it out..
Bonnie -- I can relate to that. There's the reason I included the milkman. lol
Sonny -- Does that mean that NOW you do know it all? My inner voice is psycho.
G.B. Miller -- Co-workers can be good for advice sometimes but often they sabotage.
kenju -- My dearest friend and adviser was killed in 1990. She was the same about never judging or criticizing.
Mountain Mama -- Its always good to go to the Bible yourself for advice and not let someone else interpret it for you. My kids are both great at giving me advice for this modern day.
Cliff -- It is a wise leader that recognizes this.
Kay -- Since I have a question every week you can tell that I go to bloggers a lot.
Riot Kitty -- Mr. R.K. keeps you from running amok as does my Ron. lol
LL Cool Joe -- Someday we need to meet this partner. Sounds like a fascinating person.
Snaggle Tooth -- It's great how we can often turn to our children for advice and we listen to them better than they ever listened to us. lol
REPEAT: Everyone go back and look at my new picture for this post. I changed it when a friend sent me this perfect one.
Most of the time I'm on the guidance-giving side of the equation, however when I need perspective I always ask my husband. He tells the truth even if it hurts, and his b.s. detector is always tuned to "high". He also knows me and my weaknesses better than anyone. When I'm finished fighting against the advice I asked for, I usually figure out that he's right, again.
For personal advice: my girlfriends. For computer advice: my son or one of my son-in-laws. For career advice: my children. For grandparenting advice: all you lovely grandparent bloggers!
layelt it seems that i am the person people come to. it is okay - i have now been called a monk by a number of these people - but i go for help often - i have gone to therapist - there is no shame in that, and my close circle of friends who are my family often.
I had a young man who helped me with my computer for the last couple of years, who I liked and treated him like my grand-sons so I was deeply shocked when I saw in the local paper that he was going on the sex offender's register for 5 years.
Any of the above except the milkman. :)
ReplyDeleteI've sort of turned into therapist for a depressed neighbor. You have to be careful about that kind of thing, but I advised her to call her therapist and take a walk in the mornings. She says mornings are the worst.
Lynn -- I sensed that you might be the type of person who gave good advice:)
ReplyDeleteHusband usually....
ReplyDeleteHmm? This made me think that I haven't asked for advice much lately, and maybe I need to. I do have a good friend that I talk a lot of things over with.
ReplyDeleteChanges in the wind -- I would ask my husband but he believes we are all smart enough to figure things our for ourselves. And who would he ask? No one! Why should he, he knows it all:)
ReplyDeleteJeanie -- Good friends are definitely for sharing confidences but can they give sound advice? The best advice I ever got was from a virtual stranger and it changed my life.
Sad to say but pretty much anyone and everyone who will listen to my problems, lol.
ReplyDeleteI've actually learned a lot , since I thought, I knew it all :)
ReplyDeleteI've found that if I sit quietly my inner voice will speak and remind me that I knew the answer Before I asked the question..
I will often use co-workers and friends as a sounding board before deciding which way to go.
ReplyDeleteAn old friend, although she has too many of her own problems for me to burden her with mine right now.
ReplyDeleteThe one person I could always turn to; who would never judge or criticize, died 18 months ago. I miss her every day.
My Bible or one of my daughters. Sometimes my sweet sister Bonnie.
ReplyDeleteIn my leadership of our board, I tend to get all of my advice from the lowest man (woman) on the pole. They always know the answer to the tough questions before the top figures it out..
ReplyDeleteAfter my husband, I go to my blogging buddies. :-)
ReplyDeleteSeveral of those - Mr. RK, friends, my dad.
ReplyDeleteMy partner. Grounded, high emotional intelligence, very moral and extremely bright.
ReplyDeleteI don't often ask- there's a few folks at work n my daughter's who help me out sometimes.
ReplyDeleteFIRST OF ALL: Everyone go back and look at my new picture for this post. I had to change it when I receive this perfect illustration.
ReplyDeleteBonnie -- I can relate to that. There's the reason I included the milkman. lol
ReplyDeleteSonny -- Does that mean that NOW you do know it all? My inner voice is psycho.
G.B. Miller -- Co-workers can be good for advice sometimes but often they sabotage.
kenju -- My dearest friend and adviser was killed in 1990. She was the same about never judging or criticizing.
Mountain Mama -- Its always good to go to the Bible yourself for advice and not let someone else interpret it for you. My kids are both great at giving me advice for this modern day.
Cliff -- It is a wise leader that recognizes this.
Kay -- Since I have a question every week you can tell that I go to bloggers a lot.
Riot Kitty -- Mr. R.K. keeps you from running amok as does my Ron. lol
LL Cool Joe -- Someday we need to meet this partner. Sounds like a fascinating person.
Snaggle Tooth -- It's great how we can often turn to our children for advice and we listen to them better than they ever listened to us. lol
REPEAT: Everyone go back and look at my new picture for this post. I changed it when a friend sent me this perfect one.
For new technology problems, I always call my kids. Hubby always looks for someone under the age of 25, lol.
ReplyDeleteBonnie -- Layla and Rossi can help Hut:)
ReplyDeleteMost of the time I'm on the guidance-giving side of the equation, however when I need perspective I always ask my husband. He tells the truth even if it hurts, and his b.s. detector is always tuned to "high". He also knows me and my weaknesses better than anyone. When I'm finished fighting against the advice I asked for, I usually figure out that he's right, again.
ReplyDeleteFor personal advice: my girlfriends. For computer advice: my son or one of my son-in-laws. For career advice: my children. For grandparenting advice: all you lovely grandparent bloggers!
ReplyDeleteSparkling Red -- And don't you just hate it when that happens? lol
ReplyDeleteSusan Adcox -- Love your break down. Yep, your place is a great place to go to discuss grand-parenting.
layelt it seems that i am the person people come to. it is okay - i have now been called a monk by a number of these people - but i go for help often - i have gone to therapist - there is no shame in that, and my close circle of friends who are my family often.
ReplyDeleteI got this from a lot of people - I love it and I'm using it for Friday. It's the truth. sandie
ReplyDeleteGreat pic!
ReplyDeleteWhitemist -- A therapist is probably the best person to go to for advice. They are trustworthy and objective.
ReplyDeleteChatty Crone -- You will get a lot of response on that picture. It is just soooooo funny!
Snaggle Tooth -- Isn't it!
Alas, when it comes to computer Problems, the ones who really know what they are talking about are often the ones who hate answering questions.
ReplyDeleteI had a young man who helped me with my computer for the last couple of years, who I liked and treated him like my grand-sons so I was deeply shocked when I saw in the local paper that he was going on the sex offender's register for 5 years.
ReplyDelete